Upworthy Sunday: Leslie Morgan Steiner: Why domestic violence victims don’t leave

November 23rd, 2014 No comments

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No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 41 – What’s the difference?

November 20th, 2014 No comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 41:

What’s the difference between a submissive and a slave?

There was an article floating around somewhere that said, “A submissive is a volunteer. A slave is not.” That sums it up quite nicely.

There are three main labels, for lack of a better word, used to identify those of us who enjoy being the one tied up and spanked. They are “bottom,” “submissive,” and “slave.” These days, “submissive” and “bottom” each have two meanings, really. They’re both used as a heading to describe all bottom-types in BDSM relationships, some folks feeling like “bottom” is a better heading because not all bottoms are submissive. They also each have their own definition.

Everyone defines these labels differently based on their own experience and relationships. But this is how I understand them: Read more…

Site News: The Coming Year, Resolutions, and New Blog Features

November 20th, 2014 1 comment

EXTRA NEWSiStock_000017765581SmallSo…

I hate doing this because if I say I’m going to do something here, you can pretty much guarantee I’m not going to do it.

In my defense, the things I’ve said I was going to do and then stopped doing them were giant flops1. Like the Get Fit series and the summaries of my writing elsewhere. Nobody read those things. No, really. Don’t make me pull out my stats to prove it. The numbers are embarrassing. But hey! At least I know my readers don’t really care if I’m fat for the rest of my life. That’s refreshing. Thanks, y’all!

So I figure no sense flogging a dead horse, ya know?

I usually don’t make New Year resolutions for just this reason. I know I’m not going to do it unless I’m really super passionate about it. And let me tell you…I don’t know how you fitness freaks can get really super passionate about exercising just to exercise and starving yourself of the most delicious foods on Earth. I really don’t.

But that’s okay. You probably have no idea how I got so passionate about being a slave (unless you are one, and in that case ~winky face~ you know). So we’re even. Read more…

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In the news: Scientist Wears A Shirt Covered In Sexpots

November 18th, 2014 4 comments

Alternate title: My Unpopular Opinions Get Me In Trouble Again

So unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past month, you know humanity landed spacecraft on a comet. This is pretty huge. Go, humans. You (probably) did something good.

You’ve also probably heard that one of the scientists involved in the project showed up to an interview wearing a bowling shirt covered in sexy ladies in latex. If you haven’t, let me show you:

As you can imagine, that launched a venerable shit storm that ultimately resulted in the scientist breaking down into a tearful apology on television.

Uhm…go humans, I guess?

Except not really, because holy double standards, Batman! Read more…

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Upworthy Sunday: Sexual Assault and the Press

November 16th, 2014 No comments

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No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 40 – How To Ask For A Collar

November 13th, 2014 No comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 40:

Okay so you explained what a collar is, but how do I ask for one?

So it’s like this:

(I may say that a little too often…oh well.)

Different people have different expectations.

In the years I’ve been running around the web, I’ve heard of so many different ways of doing this. For some, it’s the submissive’s responsibility to ask to be collared, and the dominant decides if this is appropriate. For others, the submissive should somehow make her desire known, but the one who does the asking is the dominant. And for still others, no one asks. The collar just goes round the neck. Read more…