No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 30 – Do I have to attend events?

August 19th, 2014 1 comment

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 30:

I’m kind of a private person. I don’t like to share my bedroom antics with other people. Do I have to attend kink functions to be kinky? And if so, what kind of events do I have to attend?


The main purpose of kink functions is to give us perverts a safe space to discuss and participate in kink with other like-minded people without judgment. Read more…

Unharshing Life Through BDSM

August 18th, 2014 1 comment

I do this thing where I click the links in the related posts widget at the bottom of each post. I like to be reminded of what we’ve been through, things we’ve said, how we’ve changed.

In 2008, I left.

It wasn’t planned. Shit happened. I got scared. And instead of trying to talk to Master about what was going through my mind, I packed the clothes in our dryer, and bolted.

I could make excuses till I’m blue in the face, and punctuate them with the fact that I didn’t feel like he would hear me. The fact remains that the way I handled the situation went against everything I promised the man who holds my leash. And ultimately, my actions caused more damage to our relationship than the reason I ran from him.

It’s funny how much a week with family can show you. At least, a week with my family, that is. And without going into too much detail, I’ve gotta say, this past week with my family showed me how wonderful I have it. Read more…

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Upworthy Sunday: Spanish Harlem, 7th Grade

August 17th, 2014 No comments

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Upworthy Sunday: Trans basics! Cuz even superheroes are allowed to take baby steps.

August 10th, 2014 No comments

My family’s gonna be here tomorrow! Hiatus and stuff.

August 8th, 2014 2 comments

Hey, y’all! I swear I’m not ignoring you. I miss you. I would love to be writing. But shit keeps happening, and I’m feeling kinda selfish with my thoughts right now, and so I’m kinda laying low.

Tomorrow, my sister, her fiancé, my niece, and my mom are coming up and we’re renting a house for a week near Saratoga Springs. The idea is to hang out and do family stuff around the area, and then put the baby (who’s not so much a baby, anymore…she’ll be 8 this year!) to bed, get out the adult drinks and games, and be adults in a way we have never been able to be because they live down there, and I live up here, and they usually have to stay at a hotel when they come here.

The hope is that M’s job doesn’t completely ruin it. That he can actually enjoy this time off. We’ll see how it goes. That project I mentioned is still going on, though they did manage to make the deadline. How awesome is that?

However, they’ve already basically taken away two days because someone else wanted time off, and somehow this is fair in everyone else’s mind but mine.

Anywho, I’m not going to be around much (probably) for the next week or so. I’m bringing my laptop and gadgets with me, but I don’t know how much I’ll use them. I mean, there’s a hot tub. And woods to explore. And family I haven’t seen in a while. And…yeah.

So anyway…I’ll be back! ~she says in her best Arnold impression~ I promise!


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Upworthy Sunday: Keith Olbermann eats his hat and takes on the NFL in one fell swoop.

August 3rd, 2014 2 comments