In the News: #OrgasmQuest and the Dreaded Question

January 27th, 2015 No comments

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tl;dr: The awesome Crista Anne is fighting depression with an #OrgasmQuest, and even Dr. Drew is intrigued.

That up there is an amazing lady named Crista Anne. She’s a mom of four. She wrestles with depression and social anxiety. She does battle with fibromyalgia and migraines. And though she has always been a very sexual creature, she finds herself on an orgasm quest to end anorgasmia.

Crista Anne was once described by sex educator Ashley Manta thusly:

“She was a vision in rainbow. Like Lisa Frank and Rainbow Brite had hot sex and Crista was the result.”

I can’t think of a better description. Read more…

Upworthy Sunday: Finding Iris: Saving a homeless injured dog + an unexpected surprise!!!

January 25th, 2015 No comments

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No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 46 – BDSM and Pregnancy

January 23rd, 2015 2 comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 45:

My question is about BDSM while pregnant. Neither my husband or I are into much S&M since we don’t care for pain that often, but we do like some hard sex, spanking, and choking me. I found out I’m pregnant around Thanksgiving and was wondering if you had any advice on being safe? I don’t want to harm the baby but I also don’t want to cut out this part of our relationship completely (especially since he has a pregnant fetish). Any advice or words of wisdom?

I want to preface this with “I am not a doctor.” It might actually be a good idea to be open with your doctor about your sexuality and ask him or her what they feel is the best course of action. You might be pleasantly surprised by their reaction. There are some risks, of course. You have to do what you feel is best. But you could feel the doc out before telling them everything by asking what they think about erotic spanking, or whatever.

A lot of my advice will be based on my own experiences with rough sex and pregnancy (I didn’t actually participate in what most people consider BDSM until after my youngest child was born), and some information I’ve found in various sources. Read more…

Kinktionary: Domination

January 23rd, 2015 No comments

found here - if you are or know the photographer, please let me know so I can give proper credit.

found here – if you are or know the photographer, please let me know so I can give proper credit.

One of the words referenced in the acronym “BDSM“.

To dominate is to rule, govern, or control. Domination, in the context of BDSM, is the consensual exertion of control over a person, usually (but not always) a submissive. The control can be service or sexually oriented, both, neither. It all depends on the desires of the people involved.

A person who enjoys to dominate other people can fall anywhere on the gender or sexuality spectrum. The level of domination a dominant is allowed to exert over a submissive varies from relationship to relationship, and sometimes from encounter to encounter. Domination may include sadistic play, or it may not. Domination may include bondage, or it may not. Ultimately, what it all boils down to is control, however that manifests for the people involved.

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Uhm…Jesus fucking Christ, no!

January 22nd, 2015 8 comments


Last night, I had to ask M to turn off a porn flick because the girl’s rectum kept prolapsing.

The guys doing her would express concern, and she’d just shove it back in, and say, “It’s okay, baby. I’m just excited.”

I was pretty much horrified.

And that’s all I’ve got to say about that.

Except…is this a new thing? “Ooo, baby, I want to fuck you till your butthole falls out!” Cuz…just…no.

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So I’m a woman. And?

January 21st, 2015 No comments

imageOn Friday, we went to an office party. I freaked the fuck out about what I was going to wear.

Since Master’s back surgery, we haven’t done a whole lot of exercising, and I’ve gained back all the weight I lost when we were trying to escape the oppression of our old house, plus about thirty pounds.

This doesn’t matter to him. He’s regained a lot of the weight (but not as much as I have), too, and he’s got a thing for fat chicks (which goes really well with my thing for fat dudes) so it literally doesn’t matter. Except that I have very few clothes, even less that fit me, and very few of those are fancy enough for corporate business affairs. Hence the freakout.

If I was a man, I wouldn’t have to do this. If I was a man, I would be able to throw on the same tired button-down/tie combo I’ve worn to every fancy thing I’ve attended since I stopped growing, and not think twice about it. Maybe I’ll mix it up a little, and wear a different tie, but ultimately, the only thing that matters is that I’m clean, well groomed, and have fucking clothes on. No one notices what guys wear. Read more…