Much Ado About Menstruation

July 1st, 2015 No comments

My period is seriously fucking with me. We’re pretty sure I have PMDD or some other menstruation symptom enhancer (that sounds like something awesome when it totally isn’t), so this is nothing new.

The new thing is that I’ve been keeping track of my period and its symptoms for about a year (give or take a few months) thanks to this really neat smartphone app I found thanks to Laci Green (who will forever be my hero), so from the very first twinge of fuckery, I knew it was my period. I’m not perfect with it (I generally forget to add the last day or two), and my periods have never been ‘regular’, so its averages are off a bit, and yet, it’s still usually pretty close to right. Within a few days, normally.

This month, I went early. REALLY early. Almost ten days early. But when you consider the fact that the average woman (according to most women’s health resources) goes about 28 days between the end of her last period and the beginning of her next, and I generally go between 35 and 38 days between the end of my last period and the beginning of my next, ten days early is just about on time for ‘normal’. Plus I’ve already got a fucked up cycle. Plus we had lots of rough sex. So I’m not worried.

The best part about keeping track of my cycle, though, is I’m not even worried about my mental state–which, at this moment, is decidedly ‘somewhat stable with a chance of tears’–because I can look at Clue and see that I’ll be menstruating in a couple days, which is good because it’s not always easy to tell the difference between PMS and bipolar disorder. Read more…

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Upworthy Sunday: Plus-Size Women Try On ‘Plus-Size’ Clothing

June 28th, 2015 No comments

#LoveWins! Hallelujah!

June 26th, 2015 No comments

2015-06-15-1434339383-4826660-PrideFlag1The New York Times headline reads, Same-Sex Marriage Is a Right, Supreme Court Rules, 5-4.

You could almost hear LGBT people and LGBT allies around the nation screaming in excitement.

I’m pretty much speechless. Fuck yeah, marriage equality. It’s about time we did something right.

No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 51 – What is erotic spanking?

June 26th, 2015 1 comment

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 51:

I know this sounds like a really dumb question, but my parents spanked me, and I can’t imagine that ever being erotic. What is erotic spanking? And why do people get off on it?

It’s not a dumb question, actually. It’s a totally logical question. Especially from someone who was spanked as a child. Read more…

Kinktionary: Soft Limits

June 26th, 2015 No comments

KffPVLwAxul2A1AcDL-300x298Soft limits can be things you’ve never done, things that you don’t really like (but are willing to do anyway), or boundaries that you’re willing to push. Just like hard limits, these can be anything from a spanking to a golden shower.

Standard operating procedure for many tops is to provide a BDSM checklist (like this one here), on which a new play partner can rate their interests in specific fetishes and ‘normal’ BDSM activities. This gives the top a clear idea of which activities they need to stay away from and which ones they can play with.

Just because you’re willing to try something eventually doesn’t mean you have to try it right this very second with the person who asked you about it. While soft limits can be pushed, they don’t have to be. You always, always have the right to decide when your limits are pushed and by who no matter which side of the slash you identify with (see: consent).

Got a suggestion for our Kinktionary? Leave it in comments or email it to rayne@insatiabledesire.com with “Kinktionary” in the subject!

Upworthy Sunday: Madonna Can’t Take This Shit Anymore

June 21st, 2015 No comments

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