Upworthy Sunday: A Cell Phone Interrupts Tchaikovsky

September 14th, 2014 No comments

Upworthy has other awesome Amanda Palmer antics, like her waltz entitled, “Dear Daily Mail,” which she performed in London after Daily Mail chose to review her “wardrobe malfunction” (her boob fell out during a show) rather than her talent or the show. You should definitely watch that. But this was too much fun to ignore, and just reinforces all the reasons I love artists. We’re a crazy bunch.

No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 32 – No Possessions + Isolation = Consensual Slavery?

September 9th, 2014 1 comment

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 32:

I met this dominant on the internet, and they say that if I want to be owned by them, I have to sell all my belongings, quit my job, sign my kids over to my ex, cut ties with my family, and move to live with them in the middle of nowhere with no ties to the outside world, or even a backup plan. I dunno that I’m comfortable with that. Does that mean I can’t be a slave?

Once upon a time, I knew a slave who claimed she’d done this. She probably still haunts the internet, but I intentionally stopped reading anything posted by her because I got tired of reading about how she sold thousands of dollars worth of designer shoes, clothes, handbags, and furniture to move out into the middle of nowhere and become isolated and enslaved, and how that made her so much better than the rest of us. She and her friends say she wasn’t saying she was better than everyone else, but I once read something she posted in which she said that if you didn’t live like her, you weren’t a slave, so…yeah. Read more…

Upworthy Sunday: Confessions Of An Uneducated Queer

September 7th, 2014 No comments

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Once upon a time…

September 3rd, 2014 2 comments

Years and years ago, there was a woman in an IRC channel who called her dominant “M”. Though I asked more than once, she never told me why.

One day, in the interest of speed, I called Master “M” in private chat, and she asked me not to do that. She said, “If you start doing it, everyone else will start doing it, and it won’t be special to us, anymore.”

I side-eyed her like a mother fucker. Who the fuck thinks they own a letter? I mean, really. But I refrained from using “M” to talk about Master for the rest of my time on IRC. Because I like to pretend I’m nice. Sometimes.

Then Twitter happened. And I was asked to write a sex and relationships column for a conservative rock station. And I realized calling Master “Master” would be a problem for some people. Plus, 140 characters. Plus, I don’t know that woman anymore. She left IRC long before we did, and I never heard from her again.

So, I started calling Master “M”. It fits. His (mostly dormant and mostly written by me) blog is Mindcryme.com. He’s gone by Melen for his entire internet existence. And I call him Master. M, and M, and M.

She was right. Everyone does it now. On FetLife. On Twitter. On their blogs.

I’m not bothered by this. I don’t own a fucking letter. I just think it’s funny. I thought she was nuts.

Huh.

<3

P.S. I’m not saying everyone calls their M “M” because I do it. People who don’t even know I exist call their M “M”, and it’s entirely possible that people I don’t know exist were calling their Ms “M” before I started calling my M “M”. I mean, I wasn’t the first s on Twitter, and there are plenty of brighter, more efficient minds than mine. Anywhoo…

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No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 31 – Do doms and subs date?

September 2nd, 2014 No comments

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 31:

Do dominants and submissives go on dates?

Yep.

So do tops and bottoms, and masters and slaves. In fact, M and I spent the entire weekend dating like high schoolers. Read more…

Upworthy Sunday: Repeat Stuff.

August 31st, 2014 No comments

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