This is the last post that will be made about the Edenfantasys issues on this site.

Insatiable Desire will continue our affiliation with EdenFantasys, despite what some view as unethical behavior from EdenFantasys regarding their link policies.

My opinion on their link policies is likely in line with most that have a technical background. The method of linking they are using isn’t protecting anyone, and worse may be providing a false sense of security to the site owners. Either way, you are eventually transfered to the destination website, and at that point there is no “protection” at all. Personally, I think they should get a second opinion from another programmer, and disable this piece of code.

However, once I got over my initial irritation, I gave it some serious thought. Sometimes I can be rather impulsive, as I was with my various comments the other day. Usually I stay out of drama, and I avoid forums like the plague (the stupidity of some people never ceases to piss me off, so I’d prefer not to waste time on it). It looked like this issue was going to directly affect us, so I got involved.

For us, we didn’t join with EdenFantasys because of backlinks, and rayne wasn’t allowed to become a reviewer with the specific idea that it would raise the pagerank of insatiabledesire.com. I’ll grant you that there was an assumption on our part that any links would be what’s considered “normal”, but it wasn’t part of our reasoning for rayne joining their various programs.

The review program was of interest because we had virtually no non-bdsm related sex toys. As far as I’m aware, EdenFantasys has always lived up to their end of the bargain with regards to rayne’s toy reviews. They provide the toy, rayne provides an honest review of it. We’ve never been pressured to provide a “good”, or “bad”, review, but were told to be honest.

I allowed rayne to begin writing occasionally for them because it was essentially a “paid” gig (albeit in EdenFantasys gift cards, but it’s still valuable). This gave our site more exposure in that our name gets out there. People can still click a link and come to our site, if they wish. The gift cards allow us to fill in our toy collection with things that aren’t provided by the review program. Once again, I’m not aware of us ever having issues with this relationship. EdenFantasys lived up to all of their promises here as well.

And finally, we’re an affiliate and refer people to edenfantasys.com from our website. This does tie in with the review program, but we joined the affiliate program for the same reason most everyone does: money. Their commissions schedule still sort of confuses me, but I will tell you that again EdenFantasys has lived up to their side of the bargain. Sales made via links on insatiabledesire.com provide commissions back to us and help us to keep the site up and running. We’ve received numerous payments, and have never had trouble with EdenFantasys keeping their part of the deal.

So, you see, for us it’s easy. I do believe that their linking policies aren’t right, but the rest of our relationship with EdenFantasys has been extremely positive. Some of you that have blogged about this have asked “How can I refer other people to EdenFantasys if I don’t trust them?”. I’d suggest really analyzing the situation, and make sure you’re not feeding off of everyone elses fury. Peer pressure is alive and well on the Internet, afterall.

We refer people to EdenFantasys because they have always lived up to their side in all our dealings with them. I cannot base my decisions on gossip, because a “friend of a friend who knows someones brother” may have had a bad experience. I wasn’t involved in that, and really can’t form an opinion on one side of the story. If back links, and raising your sites pagerank, is your focus, maybe an affiliation with EdenFantasys isn’t a good fit for you. There’s nothing wrong with that.

Without any hesitation, we will continue our affiliation, and continue to recommend EdenFantasys. I ask that everyone respect our decision.

One final thing… If you choose to post a comment anonymously, you will stay anonymous. We do not give out the identity of any anonymous poster, for any reason, ever. If someone claims that we’ve given out an anonymous posters IP or name, they are lying. You can assume this is true at all times, in every situation. There has never been an exception.

Some of you may have noticed that Cinnamon has moved on.  There was no drama, just a desire to learn how to run her own site.  We wish her well in all she does and plan to have her guest post on occasion in the future.  You can find her at Seeing My Own Reflection.

Isn’t that an awesome green? I picked it out.  I’m so stealing it when she changes her theme.  Hee!

Have fun, Cin! And let us know if you need a hand. 

<3
Rayne

Okay, it’s not major.  And you can’t even see it, yet, cause no one’s posted in it yet.  But we now have a section for guest bloggers! Which means… You guessed it! We’re going to have some posts from BDSM bloggers around the world with their opinions on the subject.

First up? Kitti! Though I’m not sure she counts since we’re working on bringing her on full time.

You think M and I are extreme? Daddy_Keeper and Kitti have us beat by a mile.  But I’ll let her tell it, cause I don’t know all the ins and outs of their dynamic.

Wanna know how you can post a guest blog at Insatiable Desire? Got a link you want us to share with our readers? Looking to advertise on our site? Mouse over that button up there that says “Contact“, click on “Contact Webmaster” (or click on those nifty little links I just provided) and shoot us an email with a link to your blog if you have one, how your dynamic works and two or three topics you’re well-versed in that will fit in with the content of our site.  We’ll get back to you as soon as possible, and we can work something out.

The only real restriction is we have to like you.  Which isn’t saying much cause I like everyone.  Except that one girl.  But she doesn’t count.  ~nods~

<3
~Rayne and Co.

Just a quick note pointing out a couple changes we’ve made over the holiday.  Nothing major.

If you’ll look at the top bar, you’ll notice that our homepage icon has mutated into a BDSM Emblem.  It still takes you to the homepage.  Promise.

Next, please turn your attention to our sidebar.  You’ll notice we now have a list of our newest reviews and our comments section gives you an excerpt!

Master fiddled with the gallery a little bit.  And Cinnamon and Vieux have their very own galleries!

And I think that’s it.

Hope your Thanksgiving rocked.  Ours sure did.

<3
~pig whore

So! We’re sitting here, each doing our own thing.  He’s still working on and off and I’m taking pics and messing around with them to post to Twitter cause Carrie asked for some.  I’m wearing pink! It’s so rare!

Maybe I’ll stick one up here, later.  In the meantime, you get shoes! At least they’re cute shoes.  I just wish they weren’t rubbing my heels raw.

Yes, those are my feet in my adorable, girly, emo shoes for whatever emo foot fetishist readers we have.

Is there such a thing?

There’s gotta be, right?

M turns to me and says, “We’re the twenty-ninth through thirty-second bloggers on the Top One Hundred Sex Bloggers of 2009 list.” all blah-ze-blah, like someone just told Him they poured Him a fresh glass of lemonade when He had one sitting on His desk already.  “Oh, well, thank you, kindly, ma’am, but, you see, I haven’t finished my first cup.” complete with a tipped straw hat and goofy grin.

Y’all must think M is the most bizarre man known to planet Earth.

He is.  Trust me.  He keeps me in stitches.

He didn’t really say that last bit about “thank you, kindly, ma’am”, it just sounded like it.  And because of His tone, I just sort of mhmed and uh-huhed until I heard Him saying something about, “We’re in the thirties.  We should be higher than that.  We can be higher than that.”

“Wait.  Wait, wait, hold up.  Say that again?”

“Huh?”

“We’re on the Top 100 Sex Bloggers list?”

“Yeah, but we’re in the thirties.  We can do better than that.”

“Holy shit! We’re on the list! That’s good enough for me! OMG!!!”  Had I any energy left at all, I’d have been zipping around the minuscule room whooping at the top of my lungs.  As it is, I can barely contain the shrieking.

People like us.  That’s pretty fucking cool.

So here’s the judges (besides Aurora, of course):

• Lilly (from This Could be Dangerous)
• Nadia West (from Diary of a Kinky Librarian)
• SSS and ♀ (from Sweat Shop Sissy)
• Mischief (from The Sexual Buzz)
• Vixen (from Secrets of a Blue-Eyed Vixen and Tits for Troops)
• Amber (from Scarlet’s Letter)
• Miss KissThis (from Miss KissThis)
• DeDe the Deviant Dyke (from Deviant Dyke)
• Monica
• Sara
• Sarah
• Sera (from Letters from a Seraglio)
• Sexy @ Forty (from Sexy @ Forty)

And here’s the list:  Read more…

We’ve bumped heads and screamed two different tunes and kissed and made up.   We don’t always see eye to eye and we definitely live different lives.  Here she is! The one… The only… VieuxCarre!

Hers is a much different relationship, as you can see from her first post here at Insatiable Desire.  She’s working on her last year of college and holding down a job and learning to be a good… Well, whatever it is she is.

We, at Insatiable Desire, thought that Vieux (and possibly her man, should he choose to poke his head in) could offer some insight into a side of BDSM that we haven’t yet experienced: The real life community.

Tab and Vieux belong to a group or two, frequent clubs, go to events and have occasion to visit a play party or two.  They play with more than just each other and Vieux is currently being trained at Jasmine Private Club in New Orleans by Master Gabriel, who is also her protector in Tab’s absence.

Vieux plans to talk about what it’s like being new to the real life community, how she’s dealing with her first round of formal training, being part of a leather family and much, much more.  We hope you enjoy what she has to say and welcome her to the site!

We’re still looking for one or two more guest bloggers.  If you’re interested, drop Melen a line through His contact form and let Him know what you think you can add to the site.

So today’s made of awesomesauce cause today we celebrate the day M’s mother graced us with His presence.  And oh my shit, am I grateful.  I don’t know what I’d do without that man.  I should really write her a thank you note.

My Daddy’s 37 years old today.  Make sure to wish Him a happy birthday, and stuff!

I love you, Daddy!

M fixed the gallery! Yay!

I’m not sure if He actually changed anything or not.  I know He was considering it.  I know we talked about changing plug-ins a lot yesterday while He was working on it.  I know one gallery plug-in completely killed the server for a couple minutes.  I don’t remember the end result.

It works again! You now have access to naked Rayne again.  I know… the horror! I’m sorry.  M made me do it.

There’s something wrong with the openid plug-in we were using.  It wasn’t working in IE or something.  M tried to fix it with no luck.  We’re waiting on an update from the creator.  Sorry, guys.  :/

If you’ll turn your attention to the right, you’ll see we’ve got a new category plug-in.  It collapses and shit.  So I can make as many sub-categories as I want to (and believe you me, they’re already in the works) and still have that tiny-iny box with just a couple parents showing.  Till you click on the lil plus mark, that is.  I lub it!

Up top, if you haven’t noticed (read: I can’t remember if I told you or not), you’ll find a couple new buttons.  We have a Toy Box and an affiliates page.  In our toy box, you’ll find a list of all the toys we own currently and a couple lists of things we plan to buy eventually.  In the affiliates page is a list of companies we’re working with in some way, shape or form.  Mostly reviews.

We’re looking to add one more couple to the list of bloggers here at Insatiable Desire.  Either switches or dominant/submissive.  Two master/slave couples is plenty.  We’ll be perusing the various sites we belong to, but if you feel you’d make a good fit here, by all means, click the contact button above and let us know why.  Please include links to either blogs you write or forums you belong to so we can take a look at who you are.

And finally, we’re looking for a submissive play partner.  A girl who wants to play with both of us.  Someone in the immediate area.  Again, click the contact links above and email us if you’re interested.

I broke the gallery.  It’s all still there.  You just can’t get to it from the button right now.  Master will fix it when He gets time.  In the meantime, sorry!