Rayne’s been bugging everyone for a guest post defining their kinky selves for the writing project Thirty Days of Kink. Next up, Neptune from Sea of Neptune.

From Neptune’s bio: I’m a beginner toy reviewer/blogger and a current college student. I live with a super awesome boyfriend and I am currently just trying to enjoy life.

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

Hi, my name is Neptune and I love all things kinky. I’m still a novice and I have been exploring this side of my sexuality for a bit of time now. My partner and I are still exploring and experimenting with each other, so right now we switch between the dominant and submissive roles. I am sure that he and I will continue to do so until we settle in our preferred role. For some reason, I tend to feel awkward being the Dom, but it always depends on my mood. When I think about being the Dom and planning things, I always shrink and become shy – but when it’s more in the heat of the moment, I have no issue. I don’t know why that is, I guess I just feel like the spotlight is shining on me and I freeze. Part of the reason I feel that being submissive is easier for me is because I am naturally dominant in regular life. I have a dominant personality; I am strong and willing to take control of everyday situations without an issue. So, I guess that I enjoy giving that up and having someone else take control. To make my decisions for me and tell me what needs to be done. The same may go for my partner as well, he is naturally laid back and willing to go with the flow. So I am sure he enjoys getting the chance to be fully in control for once. Read more…

Dear Sarah, (sarahbear, in case you’re wondering)

My first few encounters with you were almost volatile. I didn’t make matters any better by sort of slamming you here on Insatiable Desire rather than trying to talk to you. You pushed that big red button that drives me insane. You called me a misogynist.

And what’s fucked up is I did exactly what I was pissed off at you about. I decided, based on the main encounter that stuck in my mind, that you were just some bitch who made snap judgments without trying to get to know someone. Read more…

Dear Mom,

I should probably be saying this to your face, but when it comes right down to it, I’m not sure I can. I honestly have no idea how you’ll react, and I don’t know that I can handle the outcome I expect. Which is a bunch of excuses, and “I’m sorry you feel that way.”s, and “All you ever think about is yourself.”s, and not a lick of interest in working it out.

I don’t even know where I’ve gotten this impression of you. I mean, my whole life, I’ve avoided conflict unless it was unavoidable with you. I think that’s partly because Dad used to get so mad when I hurt your feelings. Cause, you know, who cares if you hurt mine. Read more…

Jade

Rayne’s been bugging everyone for a guest post defining their kinky selves for the writing project Thirty Days of Kink. Next up, Jade of Pieces of Jade.

From Jade’s Bio: I am what you see here…and yet so much more.  These are just pieces of me, of who I am and what I do.

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

As Scarlet Lotus says in her first 30 Days of Kink post, much of what I have been writing about all along in my blog has been about just that: discovering who I am in kink, musing on where I’ve been, talking about where I am now, exploring where I’m going. It’s been, and continues to be, a wild ride.

I’ve been practicing BDSM for about 10 years now, off and on, and in those years have learned much about myself and what makes me tick, and yet I am still learning, all the time, and it is still hard to pin just one label on myself. Read more…

Like there’s more than one “parent” letter, there will be more than one sibling letter. I have a biological sister, and an adopted sister. I’ll write a letter to both.

Dear J,

What kind of vile creature follows meeting her biological sister for the first time ever with suing her? Seriously.

~Better Off Without You