SJP#230: Revisited – Telling Family and Friends
How open are you to others about the lifestyle choices you make? Have you told any of your family members? What were their responses?
I had way too much to do yesterday and didn’t get to this. Between the landlord’s less than twenty-four hours notice about a building inspection and me agreeing to do another post for Eden Cafe (I’ll be posting every Thursday, for those interested. I know. You read a lot of me here. But there, I’m starting at the beginning. I don’t talk about the beginning much here. So if you’re interested, check it out. The contests alone are worth it. But there’s a crapload of information over there, too. Scoot!) with less than twenty-four hours to get it in and… It just wasn’t happening.
I didn’t even finish the club yesterday! Gotta get to that. Good thing the stuff I let slide was all self-imposed, huh?
Since I just told my mom I’m bisexual, I figured I would revisit this. Sort of.
The conversation went a little something like this:
“So how close are you to D.C.?”
“Oh. I dunno. Somewhere between fifty and a hundred miles. Why?”
“Because… Well, first let me ask you a question. How do you feel about same sex marriages?”
She paused. I thought I was about to hear about how homosexuality is wrong and against God and so on and so forth.
“Well, I was raised to believe that marriage was between a woman and a man. But I think any family unit, regardless of who’s involved, should be allowed to reap the same benefits of a male/female married couple.”
She went on to explain her opinion, telling me that she doesn’t think about the sex part because it goes against her belief system. But she thinks it’s crap that a gay couple who’s been living as a family for years isn’t allowed to reap the same benefits of other families around the country. (Yay, Mom!!! Trust me. That she’s allowing that much is huge. Huge! Who knows? In five years, she might be bicurious!)
“Why do you ask?”
“Well, they’re marching on Washington.”
“The LGBT community and those who support them having equal rights. We’re considering going and I thought if you were close we could pop in for a visit.”
We started discussing our opinions on homosexuality and I just blurted out, “I’m bisexual, Mom.”
“Okay. That’s between you and Melen.”
I wanted to explain to her that it’s really not about the sex. But I had already pushed my luck. I’m not usually one to look a gift horse in the mouth.
“You know how you don’t want me to see your website?” she asked.
“Well, it’s not that I don’t want you to. It’s that I don’t think you’ll respect M after and I’m not willing to take that risk.”
“And see? I can respect that. And I know you know me well enough to know what I won’t approve of. So I don’t want to know. It’s your business. Not mine.”
Remind me why I’ve been hating on this woman for so long? She apparently has a better head on her shoulders than I realized.
prompt found at SubmissiveGuide