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Hello! Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Shady.

August 14th, 2010

Isn't she beautiful? And look! Em doesn't look like a little boy anymore.

I’m a huge Eminem fan.  HUGE.  Always have been, probably always will be, even after the rest of the world has forgotten his name.  From his “I just don’t give a fuck.” attitude, to his amazing amount of self-awareness, to his most recent feat of cleaning up and coming out with two new albums almost at once, this man has held me completely enthralled since I was a teenager.

A lot of people think he’s disgusting.  A hater of women, homosexuals, his neighbors, his fans, his family, people he doesn’t know, and you and me.  Matter of fact, the only people anyone can say he loves for sure are his daughters and his crew.

I won’t sit here and pretend some of his songs aren’t offensive.  I won’t claim he’s this super awesome person we should all emulate.  He’s made his mistakes.  He’s been in trouble.  And for all the people screaming about “Poor me.  I’m so famous that it’s ruined my rich little life, and I’m such a tortured artist. Let me make music about it and my tragic love life.”, being rich and famous doesn’t change the fact that he’s had it rough. 

There’s a bunch of bitching about the song, and subsequent video (Starring Dominic Monaghan and Megan Fox), he made with Rhianna called “Love the Way You Lie”.  People think it portrays being in an abusive relationship as a good thing.

I was thinking about writing my own opinion on this.  How Eminem fans who have heard the song “Stan”, and have followed his career, and have listened to the vast majority of his interviews realize that most of the shitty things he says are jokes, for lack of a better description.  Whether to raise awareness, or because he “Just Don’t Give a Fuck”.

Then I saw this article from Carnal Nation in my Twitter timeline and realized I don’t have to.  They said it for me.  Minus the concerns about how BDSM is portrayed in the media.  I mean, yeah, they do sometimes miss the point.  But I’m not so sure this particular video intended to touch on BDSM at all, so much as rough sex in an abusive relationship.

Having been in a relationship like the one portrayed in this song, I can say with a good amount of certainty that we (or at least I) had no illusions surrounding the abuse in our relationship.  We knew that even our violence during sex had nothing to do with BDSM, and everything to do with hurting each other.

  1. jerry321999
    August 14th, 2010 at 18:20 | #1

    I”m not a huge fan of either of them…but wow, that is a pretty intense video.
    Eminen sure looks different w/o the fake blond in his hair

  2. August 14th, 2010 at 18:44 | #2

    @jerry321999 Doesn’t he, though?

  3. August 15th, 2010 at 02:16 | #3

    To watch, and see what you go through in the third person, is so much different than what you expect it to be. This is the first time I’ve been affected by a music video. i had goose bumps. it’s crazy how accurate it was.

  4. August 15th, 2010 at 18:29 | #4

    I wouldn’t call myself an Eminem fan, but I enjoy some of his songs. I didn’t even think of BDSM when I saw this video the first time. The video was compelling, but I didn’t think it glorified abuse. I mostly felt sad watching it because of how they showed their positive and negative interactions one after the other, and the passion just ran through the whole thing. Like Cin, I got chills watching it. The shots of Eminem and Rhianna actually lessened the intensity for me.

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