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No Stupid (Kink) Questions: Episode 27 – Should a master love his slave?

March 4th, 2014

NoStupidKinkQuestionsGandhi said that if you want to change the world, you have to be the change you want to see. To that end, Insatiable Desire brings you No Stupid (Kink) Questions, a series of questions asked by novice kinksters around the web. If you have a question for us, leave it in comments, or send it to rayne (at) insatiabledesire (dot) com with “NS(K)Q” in the subject.

Question 27:

Should a master love his slave?

There’s no right answer to this one. Some people prefer to keep slavery separate from romantic love. Some people won’t be involved in slavery if there isn’t romantic love. Some people find that romantic love just naturally comes with the territory.

Master loves me. So very much. This much:

I would be his slave without it, because I am hopelessly devoted to him, but I can’t tell you how much more fulfilling it is to be so completely loved by the person I have hitched my devotion wagon to. Plus, being enslaved to the master of me would be empty without his love. Harsh and cold. And that’s really not what I’m looking for.

Some masters adore their slaves, but they do not love them. Their relationships are different than my relationship with master. More that of a man and his dog, than that of a man and his wife.

Still other masters feel nothing whatever for their slaves. The slave is an object they own, and nothing more. Some feel it ought to be this way; that you cannot fully own something that can twist your heart with your love. I say that depends entirely on the people in question, and has nothing, whatever, to do with any perceived or real “BDSM rules” or truisms.

Which is right for you and yours? It really depends on you. Do you want to be loved, or merely owned? Do you want a slave you can love, or merely something to play with?

  1. Camryn
    March 28th, 2014 at 11:56 | #1

    Interesting question, sensible answer. I must admit that for a while I thought all Master/slave relationships were impersonal and that (along with my race/ancestry) was a really uncomfortable thing for me. Learning that there are pairs like you and M was a huge relief, and I often think of you guys when I find myself getting uncomfortable reading about BDSM.*laughs* You’re one of my flesh & blood “Not all kinksters” reminders.
    To each their own of course, but were I inclined to be someone’s Master or slave I wouldn’t be satisfied with an impersonal relationship knowing that what you two have exists.

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