For a long time, I’ve been required to give M any new logins to any new websites or games. Not only does He have my email passwords, but all my mail forwards to His and He owns the server our email is on. My life, should He choose to make it, is an open book to Him.
He rarely snoops behind me anymore. He used to. But these days, I tell Him about the email I get and the gossip I hear before He even realizes I got an email.
He mostly just laughs at me. He doesn’t know… well… anyone, really, and there’s always some new name He’s never heard before. But occasionally, He’ll feel the need to tell me why he agrees or disagrees.
But M and I are married. We live together. If I were to fly half way across the country to meet any of the people I talk to online, He would come with me. You’re buggin’ if you think, for a second, He’d send me alone. So it would be silly for me to keep things from Him.
I was bumbling around on FetLife, today, looking for a more educational group. (Shut up. I don’t want to hear it.) And I came across a thread in the Power Exchange Relationships group entitled “Are submissives to be trusted?”
Yeah, I got my panties in a bunch when I read the title, too. Why do you think I went to see what he was really asking?
Basically, the situation goes like this:
Sub meets DomA and has a great number of private conversations, discussing scores of personal information, with him in private messages on FetLife. Sub then meets DomB and gets into a relationship with him. DomB asks for Sub’s password to her FetLife account and unlimited access to all the private, personal conversations on her FetLife account, including, but not limited to, conversations that took place before their relationship with the promise that they would be kept confidential. DomA isn’t comfortable with DomB reading his conversations with Sub, and hence knowing personal information about him.
DomA wants to know:
So, what takes precedance?…protecting the privacy of her past friends personal discussions and private information?…or… loyally complying with her new Doms request for her FET password and/or other information?
In a larger picture…where does the D/s stop? Would a request for personal and work email passwords come next? Cell phone voice mail passwords? Should a Dom ask for personal information of his new submissive and expect complete compliance?
And I’m sort of torn. Read more…